Happiness is overrated

A Bunch of us were discussing marriages and their failures recently. All of us have been married between 2 - 6 years and have children. I started discussing how many marriages around us are falling apart. And from the outside, all of them seemed like good partnerships, so what was the problem?

The first thing that the others said was that happiness is overrated.
Excuse Me??
Happiness is overrated. Why is there so much emphasis on happiness?
What the Fuck?
The conversation went on.  Definitions of happiness were discussed. Expectation levels of partners were discussed. But the bottom line from everyone else was
' Happiness is overrated '

I am a sucker for the happy ending. But I know when Girl meets Boy and they get together for 'ever after', there is work. It's not a bed of roses everyday, its not Happy, Happy, Joy Joy everyday. But I believe it should be there.
I don't believe happiness is overrated. I think one of the foundations to a healthy life is, to be happy. I think when you are in a marriage or a relationship, you need to work at it. Because all relationships go through ups and downs. And when you are down and don't feel like putting any effort into the relationship is when you most need to. Communication is extremely important and one of the keys to a successful partnership.

 And never forget Sex. Hot, Steamy, Cry out Loud SEX.

But above all, both partners must try to make each other happy. Do things together which bring joy. Now and then, try to be selfless. But it only works when both partners work together at it.
And expect happiness from life.
Everyone Deserves happiness.